when I get to feeling good emotionally and mentally it feels like the world around me is trying to steal my peace and joy? The Chief and I are good–missing each other terribly but good, the girls are good, the dogs are good, my immediate job situation doesn’t suck.
But seriously, here’s an example. There is a meme out there about ‘how quiet life became once I stopped texting first.’
My cell phone became a brick back on August 31. This was not a good day. Work stank and I had actually told the Chief once I got one of the credit cards paid off I was going to quit at the end of December. I didn’t know my number was bricked for almost a week. It took my Bestie texting me through FB Messenger and asking me if I was mad at her to realize I had missed a week’s worth of texting. My lovely SIL thought I was mad at her for who knows what when I didn’t respond to pictures that I never got of our MIL buying a car with her. It’s almost Oct. 31st…still no working phone number.
But yes, it’s been quiet. Who thinks I have ghosted them? Who even noticed I stopped texting? Who doesn’t care? I had this thought that I should reshare this meme to my FB and kind of call out people.
Where does that thought come from? 🤦🏻♀️ Why do I want to be that petty? Go. If you don’t want to be in my life, go. I’m not going to fight for something the other person didn’t see of the same value. “Hey now, SnipeWife, maybe they’re going through a lot. You could have some compassion.” Sure but we’re all going through a lot. If you’re life is that bad that you never have a good enough moment to be able to check on other people maybe you don’t need me in your life.
As I said my immediate job is going better and I’ll probably stick out the year at least. The Chief and his retirement or not retiring will determine what I do. But elsewhere in the school? Suddenly I’m stuck in the middle of feuding departments for one of my add-on duties. I can see both sides. Can’t they compromise? I feel like I’m playing both sides and that I’m being played–masterfully–and I don’t like that and I don’t want that reputation.
*I also just discovered that I made huge mistake back in August (a week before the bricked phone) when I was in the throws of my emotional flashback and wanting to quit my job. My short-term or long-term memory is greatly affected by stress levels. And upon discovering my mistake thankfully I was able to personally apologize, take responsibility, and was given grace by the other parties–something my previous bosses traumatized me over with their lack of grace and compassion. Interestingly I was not afraid to go to these two individuals because I’m learning to stand up for myself. I was prepared to apologize and walk away if they chose to berate and attack me. That’s the kind of peace though that I feel is trying to be stolen from me.
I know a few younger couples through my D&D hobby and when I see them struggling with their marriages, my heart aches for them. Then I worry and T1 and her new marriage. Will they weather life’s storms? Are they doing okay?
I don’t want to be oblivious to the problems around me. I don’t want to borrow trouble either. Intrusive thoughts like to dig deep. I want to respond. I’m not a fair-weather friend but I’m sad by the reality that so many I counted as ‘friends’ seem to be. Wow, you need to figure how to pick better friends, SnipeWife. I’m almost 50–making new friends is harder than ever. I want to be petty, not compassionate because the compassion I’ve shown doesn’t seem valued or respected. But being petty smacks of begging and I am done begging for anyone to want me in their life. Done. I deserve more.
So go. The text messages technically stopped well before I got bricked. Only one of us was putting in the effort anyway.