Archive for February, 2012

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Please Be Mindful…

February 27, 2012

… sometimes well-intentioned advice can be very insensitive.

The cause of my rant today is actually because of a stranger. Last summer, DH and I would walk Cassie as much as possible. Many in our neighborhood came out to see her and ask how she was doing. They would also ask how the girls were handling the situation. Cassie was an ambassador to the end for greyhound retirement/rescue, whatever you want to call it. One gentlemen we enjoyed seeing because he is a woodworker like DH. He was familiar with greyhounds through a friend. With the gorgeous weather today this gentleman was out so I thought I’d take Crook and Heddie to meet him. He first asked if we had gone with a local group and I said no, it worked out that another group had the greys we wanted. Then he said to me, “I told my friend about you and he was very concerned that you may not have had all the information to make the right decision–there is so much they can do for them.”

I wasn’t upset with the neighbor. I was upset with the other greyhound owner. It is a very personal decision and yes, we had all the information available to us (from a vet that promotes and supports at least one of the local groups). We made the best decision for OUR greyhound and OUR family.

But don’t we all do it? The unsolicited parenting or health advice. We’re all perfect parents until we have children. Or we have a friend who has that exact same condition so we feel qualified to tell you exactly what you should be doing. I am so guilty of this. (I swear by cinnamon and chromium, btw.) Maybe we should be spending more time just listening rather than speaking, unless actually asked for our advice. And even then, if the experts cannot agree or see a condition in the same light, take it all with a grain of salt and respect the decisions and opinion of your friends.

We should keep quiet especially if we are perfect strangers or have no personal experience (knowing someone who has a condition or is going through a similar situation really does NOT count). I was having a private conversation in a library and was asked how I was progressing with the PsA (btw, with all the drug information pamphlets I get on a daily basis now I have learned the correct abbreviation is PsA … I have no idea what disease is PA) and a total stranger felt compelled to give me advice on what supplements I should be taking for arthritis. My rhuematologist believes in supplements–just not for PsA–so I’ll continue following my doctor, thank you very much.

No two people are the same and no two dogs are the same. I’m sure this other greyhound owner would be horrified to know we keep our greys in the basement, even though the whole family spends all of our time down there except to eat and sleep. And we have managed to be paired with the three most oddest duck-dogs out there that seem to be perfectly content to sleep in a room separate from the family. That’s one of the first things I tell people: our greys have generally been the exception and not typical greys.

I know the saying is “walk a mile in my shoes” but even then, they’re your feet and you still won’t experience the exact same thing… ever. I hope I think twice about offering unsolicited advice. Now I have to go apologize to a friend…

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Project 365: Week 8

February 26, 2012

Feb. 19What a crazy week! DH is gone. It snowed Sunday night. I told everyone we wouldn’t get snow until DH left. Thankfully it was a beautiful and temporary snow. But the weather systems with the Hi and Low pressure systems are totally giving me migraines!

First Snow

Feb. 20-21I had several appointments and some time on my hands on Tuesday. I spotted these garden statues and pulled over. There were about 4 of the lions. I liked the white and greys up against the purple building (which is a landmark in Downtown).

Regal Lions, Copyright SnipeWife

I believe the whole statue is supposed to be Hercules and this is him battling the Nemean lion(s). I took a picture of the whole statue but my car was in the background so I didn’t like the composition.

Nemean Lions? Copyright SnipeWife

Feb. 22-25It is cookie time! What is your favorite?

It is Cookie Time!

T2 has entered the science fair. She and DH have outlined the whole experiment which involved hydroponics. We needed some really fast growing seeds and this summer discovered that while they would not pollinate, spaghetti squash seeds will grow super fast. So we had spaghetti squash for dinner. Yum!

Let the Science Fair Begin!

What? No pictures of Crook & Heddie this week? Nope. But I did take them on a walk on Saturday. I decided to take a picture of a neighbor’s fake deer because I remembered our first walk around the block with C & H… H went on total alert, ears up, shoulders quivering. We had to tug her away from this curiosity. Not really pleased with the quality but I had to take it quickly before C & H yanked on the leash.

Mezmerizing Fake Deer

The sky was really pretty. I am wanting to find a solitary cloud to take a picture of in homage to Bob Ross’s Happy Little Cloud… but I haven’t yet. I did see this patriotic neighbor’s flag really taking to the wind (boy was it windy later!).

Patriotic Neighbors

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Friday Update

February 24, 2012

I’ve been thinking I need more maritime stuff–you know, I should try at least once a week. There has been an awful lot in the maritime news… but not much of it good. Pirates, accidents, law suits, shutting down this and shutting down that. I don’t even know where to begin. And I don’t want to just repeat what gCaptain or USMMAAA&F report. Please visit my Maritime Links page (which I am seeing several have done that when stumbling upon me) and go to their pages.

I am happy to say DH did not go international. Especially with all the pirates and the Italians shooting the Indians… I believe I mentioned he does not have the proper credentials and it would take a few weeks to make that happen. I am relieved.

I am also happy to report that DH got his best review score since becoming Chief and will have a nice bonus to go along with that. I am very proud of him. He works so hard.

It is a rough day. Very bad night … and that’s so sad as I had the most awesome trip to the mall with the girls in the afternoon and we had fun playing Nancy Drew on the computer. It was the hours of midnight to 6 a.m. that were hard.

Going to be a long day. These are the days I miss DH the most. But I always tell myself, the day is only 24 hours and there is a lovely reset button at the end of it! Gorgeous spring weather should make the weekend awesome.

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A Duck-Dog!

February 22, 2012

I really should save this for Dr. Seuss Day (March 2nd).

BIG D

little d

David Donald Doo

dreamed a dozen doughnuts

and a duck-dog, too!

(Dr. Seuss’ ABC)

I have no idea what Heddie was doing or why that stuffed ducked ended up where it did! Copyright, SnipeWife

I do also have to say, our adoption group slapped our hands because Crook and Heddie have been photographed “naked” (without tag collars) on more than one occasion. Don’t worry, tag collars have been successfully employed.

 

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