The girls and I joined my in-laws for our annual amusement park and haunted house thrill weekend. After T-1’s
slaughter game, that is. What an interesting weekend to say the least. Of course it was the last possible weekend, the Chief wasn’t with us, the weather had turned cold, etc.
But BIL was bringing The Girlfriend.
My girls adore her. I think I adore her, even if she is taller and thinner than me. She’s really hard not to like. We’re all crossing our fingers and hoping *she’s the one!*
In fact this summer, when visiting with the SIL and her family, the topic came up quite a bit. Now my MIL has never been one to truly play favorites, even with the one niece. The grandchildren are all equally spoiled. I walked in when my MIL was saying she’s resisted calling the grandson her favorite grandson (because he’s the only one) because she hopes BIL will one day get married and have children. Thus she calls the older granddaughters “Her favorite oldests” and mine “Her favorite youngest (though hoping for more)”. My SIL’s husband says “I’m her favorite son-in-law” and we all laugh because he’s the only one. So I say, “Well, we all know I’m about to be replaced.” My MIL has never, I repeat, never yelled at me … but she did. “SNIPEWIFE, YOU DON’T MEAN THAT!” I look at my SIL, her husband, the oldest niece, and giggle. “I’m mean, hey, 18 years is a good run.” In relating this to others I usually add, “My place is secure, I gave her T1 and T2. I’m good.”
I’m actually okay with being replaced. It kind of has to do with the fact The Girlfriend is 12 years younger than me. And if and when there are new grandchildren, it will be such an age gap that my girls won’t be replaced either. We’ve had a good run and we’re moving on to new phases of our lives.
I didn’t feel like there was someone new intruding on my weekend, my Halloween fun, my traditions. No, there was someone new to go into the haunted houses with me and be as scared if not more scared of clowns than me. Okay, I still screamed more, but she thought I was hilarious. Maybe it didn’t hurt that for the first time T1 was not being sent home with the grandparents as soon as the night creatures came out. T1 was joining the ranks of the scary thrill seekers.
On the first night, T2 tried to make it through the pirate haunted house but she became hysterical. BIL led her through as quickly as possible and then she was sent home with the grandparents. While he escorted them to the car, The Girlfriend, T1 and I hopped on a few rides to wait for his return. We had a great chance to talk and get to know each other without him around. We talked about that moment when you know the FIL has accepted you by the awkward out of the blue hug. We talked about the SIL, spoiled grandchildren, previous vacations.
We talked about what had happened that morning while everyone was waiting for T1 and I to join up. No one would make a decision. No one would make a plan. Everyone was just so polite. BIL declared he didn’t want to be in charge. They started texting me and eventually calling me about what we should do. Once BIL had made a choice we thought it was settled but suddenly FIL said that wasn’t what he wanted to do. This is rare but the frustration came out “Well, why didn’t you say something 20 minutes ago?” I just grinned and nodded at her.
“You want to know why that was happening? It’s because I wasn’t there. They won’t make decisions. They were waiting for you the make the choice. Too polite and all. I took charge. Couldn’t stand not having a plan. And they let me. I’ve always planned things and gotten them to make choices.”
The Girlfriend was all like, “That’s fine. You can keep on doing that.”
See, I won’t be replaced after all. LOL
I told her about the conversation this summer and finally getting MIL to yell at me. She found it very amusing. “Tell you what, why don’t we make it an even 20 year run if it happens? I’ll wait till then to replace you.” Sounds good to me. By then I can have her trained just the way I want her. Probably the closest thing I’ll have to a daughter-in-law of my own.
So T1 was thrilled to be hanging out with the adults. T2 was finally tall enough to ride the last roller coaster. T1 conquered her fear of roller coasters and went of 4 of the 5. T2 was brave enough to go through the vampire haunted house with us the next night–and she loved it! I screamed so much I have no voice today but that’s all good! I love screaming!
Now suddenly we can all ride the big roller coasters and stay past the witching hour together. It was an entirely new experience. I miss the days when we’d stay an entire week with my in-laws but school seems to frown on missing too many days. But I know it won’t be too long when the Chief and I can join them on our own. Who knows what the future holds with BIL and The Girlfriend (she felt no pressure whatsoever that we’ve all “discussed” her and their relationship) but we can only hope and wish them the best. Hopefully there will be many more new memories to make.
Now we just have to see if she can survive the holidays with us …. now that would make a great haunted house! Bwaahahahaha!