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Thankfulness 2014 Week 1

November 11, 2014

Nov. 1 Today I am thankful for God who deserves all the glory and praise. I am nothing without HIM and I need to trust and rely on Him more. I am grateful He uses even my flaws and mistakes to better me or to make a difference in this world. I am thankful He has given me another day.
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Nov. 2 I am thankful for this Lord’s Day. I was so happy to be back to my young ladies class and my co-teacher Heather M. I learn so much from them and today was all about growing in knowledge of God. The aches were catching up to me but I am thankful for this day of worship and rest.

Nov. 3 I am thankful for the husband I was blessed to find 21 years ago. The love and devotion he has shown me and the girls and all the sacrifices he makes cannot not be adequately described. This past week he has risen to all occasions even while sick to make sure everything for our family went smoothly while I worked and ran an event. I could not have done it without him. He is my best friend and partner, chief engineer and head of family. His generosity astounds me and we are instilling that in our children (even if they act spoiled!) I thank God for the Chief every day.

Nov. 4 I usually do these in a particular order but because today is the birthday of a wonderful friend, today I am thankful for the friends in my life who have been my rocks, my sounding boards, my champions, my confidants, my sanity, my hilarity, my partners in crime. As an introvert you are few and far between and to the ones who have been here the longest–I am in debt to you (you know who you are–especially the birthday girl!) I know often I get the better end of this deal but please know that I am so thankful for you, besties, and you make the world a better and brighter place.

Nov. 5 I am thankful for the blessing in my life that is my Bright Light. What an amazing young woman she is becoming. The journey that we have shared in the last year alone has been a privilege and wonder to take with her, bringing us closer even as she becomes more independent and sure of herself, learning some tough lessons and staying true. She is rising to the potential both D and I have always seen in her and couldn’t be more hopeful for her bright future. She didn’t come with an instruction manual but I learn from her all the time and I am humbled. What a gift from God.

Nov. 6 I am thankful for the Happy Girl in my life. From the beginning she made sure to let us know she was going to do things in her own unique and creative way, not sitting in anyone’s shadow and daring anyone to try to ignor her. She is truly a funny little person and makes me laugh often. She is coming into her own, even if doing with a bit more attitude and moodiness than her usual happy self, and watching her grow is a joy. And from the beginning that joy she freely shares has been such a gift from God in times of need. My joy and my comfort… šŸ™‚

Nov. 7 I guess what I said in my share post yesterday was my thankful thought… I am thankful for the advances in medicine that came up with biologics. Aches and creaky joints mean I am still here for one more day but I don’t have to live those days in crippling pain. I get to be here and not only watch my children grow but be part of their lives. Since my diagnosis my fabulous trainer has kept me going and I’ve done more than I thought I could … getting ready for my 5th 5 K in December (and I hate running!) Yes I desire a permanent cure but I am thankful for the “thorn” of this illness too. It brought me to my knees and when I finally learned to trust God he gave me the spiritual healing I needed.

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International Day of the Seafarer–June 25th

June 25, 2014

June 25th is the UN and IMO (International Maritime Organization) recognized International Day of the Seafarer.

I had no idea. Cool.

“Seafarers are the people without whom food, clothes, gifts, gadgets or even basic needs would not reach our doors. We rely on them every day. Yet have you ever said thank you to a seafarer? Chances are you haven’t.”

The 2014 campaign to bring awareness and gratitude for our seafarers is all about “Seafarers brought me….” If it is not made in America, it was made somewhere else and was transported most likely by ship.

SO many things. My gas. Phone. Kindle. My shoes… pretty sure my Adidas are made overseas. Man, I could go on and on.

But the industry has brought me some other things too–my hard-working Chief is gainfully employed which allows me to stay at home for another 2 years with my children. His employment pays for scouts, sports, music lessons and instruments (yup, we need a new mouth piece and an upgrade beyond a “student” viola here soon), camp, charitable donations to those in need, way too many clothes and those Adidas running shoes (Have I mentioned I hate running? LOL), my E.o.t.T. training, and now braces for both girls.

What about entertainment? How many out there have taken a cruise … whether on the Love Boat or just a quick jaunt down the local river? I’m thinking about this as we’re planning a spectacular cruise soon. Yes, the Chief is not thrilled that he is actually paying to go on a ship while on his vacation. My trainer keeps laughing every timeĀ time he thinks about the Chief doing this for me.

I hope people also think about the security having a civilian fleet can provide in times of war as well.

Thank you to all the seafarers out there, foreign and domestic.

 

Related Article: Celebrate Day of the Seafarer by Enchanted Seashells

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Sometimes It Is Not Fun Being an Adult

January 12, 2014

When the Chief asked me what I wanted for Christmas I said, “I was thinking about that. Could we combine Christmas with our anniversary, not get each other anything, and go to this bed-and-breakfast that I’ve been dying to go to and have been watching its blog like a hawk?”

The Chief was game and I was given the go ahead to look for a sitter for the girls.

Then the Chief gave me for Christmas a pair of earrings we had scoped out at an antique shop downtown. Now I did get him to narrow down how much he spent and I don’t think that he paid too much for them. I would like them appraised to see if the stones are real but the earrings themselves are 14k gold.

So our anniversary came and went and so did some weird weather. It is fortuitous that we did not go on our actual anniversary because of the weather. (The next day was a snow day and that could have been disastrous.)

We were planning on going tomorrow. But it has been nagging at me.Ā The cost. The cost of one night. I know, I knowĀ it is the experience of staying in a historicĀ building, having cocktail hour, a luxury bath, gas fire-place, amazing food in the morning, time alone, just the two of us… I’m worth it. He’s worth it (though I’m not so sure he’d enjoy it as much as I would). 18 years is a pretty good accomplishment.

But we have a family cruise to Hawaii this summer. I’m going to want to do as many excursions as possible. The amount we would have spent in the accommodation, taxes and for a sitter for the night could pay for 1 or 2 excursions for a family of 4 depending on what we choose to do.

I was talking to the father of the sitter, letting him know we’d tell her tonight if we still needed her. “Yeah, we usually end up taking the kids with us because there will be a time when it’s just us.” I said, “We’re going on this trip but it’s not like we’ll have privacy.” He laughed, “Sure you will. Just send them to the beach.” T1, who will be sharing a cabin with other cousins, piped in, “Or just send T2 to our cabin!”

ItĀ is not just that. In recent days I looked around at our more than adequate home and started listing that I’d still really like–our bathroom redone and we truly need to admit we need a king size bed if we’re ever going to get decent sleep any time soon. This could mean a whole new bedroom set (ours is 18 years old now). And he has a list of his own–new kitchen floor, new front door, etc. None of this will be inexpensive. We just got a new hot water heater, new washer & dryer, and replaced the french doors. Not cheap at all. Those three were definite needs and not the wants of a new bathroom sink.

And the kicker? The Chief and I just had physicals. Our GP is an old friend–I’m talking I’ve known him since 9th grade. He went in to see the Chief and said, “Not that your wife told me to say anything to you, but you don’t seem too particularly thrilled with your employment situation. What’s it going to take for you to stop sailing?”

“For my wife and children to agree to live on half my salary.”

Don’t get me wrong, the Chief is pretty selfless and doesn’t make us feel like a burden. If you’ve read my blog for any length of time, you know that it is me that refers to myself as spoiled and blessed that I don’t have to work. I’ve struggled with that and I’ve panickedĀ about that–I can be immobilizedĀ by the question of “what do you want to be when you grow up?” But the Chief has never made me feel like he resents us. He has expressed displeasure when he’s felt unappreciated but he’s right. The girls especially have had moments of thoughtless unappreciation.

I just spent the month of November being thankful and December is about serving, giving, and counting those blessings all over again. If the Chief is one of my top blessings, is it right for me to ask him to take me to what boils down to as an extravagance in light of all the home improvements I just complained about and the already planned expensive Hawaiian trip .. for “our anniversary”? Is it appreciative to ask him to spend money of something he might not enjoy as much as me?

Okay, just to be balanced, if the Chief asked me to spend our anniversary at a woodworking show, you better believed I’d roll my eyes, groan, make sure there was a nice hotel and restaurant involved before I’d agree to go with him. (And yes, I’ve spent my birthday at a woodworking show with him but it was followed by a Trace Atkins & Bill Engvall concert–seemed like a reasonable exchange!) The Chief agreed to the B-n-B idea without asking for something for him.

I wanted the Chief to step in and say, “Let’s save the money for Hawaii.” But he wouldn’t. He felt like he was in between a rock and a hard place. He listened to what I had to say. If he gave his thumbs up, I’d enjoy it–I’d have a blast. But I’d probably feel the guilt later when I had another sleepless night or complained again about or mismatched medicine cabinets. Or had even more guilt as we signed up for our excursions. Would it be worth it.

The Chief came up with the only grown-up solution. “If you’re going to feel guilty, let’s not go and go shopping for a king size bed this week.”

He’s a good guy, that Chief of mine.

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How Could I Have Missed This??? (Take 2)

November 7, 2013

I know how. Have your contact information send contacts to a e-mail account you only use like twice a year. That’s how.

On APRIL 24, 2013 I received an e-mail from a delightful fellow mariner wife named Callie.

Just found your blog, I had no idea you were out there, Enchanted Seashells directed me your way!Ā  I started a website last December along with a blog, Calliesmariner.com & calliesmariner.blogspot.com.Ā  I’ve just been reading some of your posts and it’sĀ  wonderful to know you’re out there, too. šŸ˜‰Ā  Now I’m going to go add you to my blog list so I can keep up with you!Ā  A new friend!Ā  Callie

Callie’s mariner is on the deck side, like Enchanted Seashell’s tugboat captain, but I won’t hold that against her. šŸ™‚

It is now NOVEMBER 7th! I hope Callie did not take my silence and lack of response as a personal snub. I wouldn’t want to fuel the whole engine vs. deck thing and let it spill over with the wives. šŸ˜‰ I don’t even remember making that e-mail account my default e-mail for messaging.

I applaud Callie, and Enchanted Seashells, for filling the void about all things merchant marine, mariners, and spouses. I am still hampered by this whole blogging anonymously but after nearly three years of blogging (my anniversary is coming up) I may have to change things up a little bit. Besides, I am a little outnumbered and need to find another engine wife out there to balance things out.

WordPress is being a little fickle this morning and not letting me auto add links but I will be updating my resources page and blog list ASAP. Heck, it’s not even allowing me to auto tag right now either! I am seriously starting to get peeved… I have been trying all day to add tags and update this page!!

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