The above article in Maritime Executive is a good resource for those of us “living the life” with children. I’ve blogged about my own hits and misses and guarantee you that what works (does it really?) for our family will most definitely not translate for another. You have to find what works best for you and your family, in your circumstances. I am currently participating in a FB forum of MM spouses. Many of the joys and complaints shared are universal but it becomes painfully obvious who the long-timers are and who are the ones struggling through those first years–with and without children. It has definitely made me more appreciative of my saint of a Chief, that’s for sure.
I would make a snarky comment that you can also tell 95% of the time who is married to a deckie or to an engineer too but that wouldn’t be nice.